Teen Dating Violence & Abuse

When one thinks about dating, they rarely think about how dangerous it could be. In the past 5 years violence has increased dramatically. One study was done and 1 out of 4 teens claim that they have been emotionally, physically or sexually abused by a boyfriend or girlfriend. What's equally disturbing is the fact that friends and family of abused victims won't report anything about the abuse.

Other studies and reports done state a large percent of young women who get raped knew the perpetrator that committed the act. Many times it turned out to be their boyfriend or close relative or someone they work with. Oftentimes, the most common place and time of when the abuse happens is when the victim and her acquaintance are somewhere alone.

The abused victim doesn't think to report it because they are familiar with the perpetrator. This is something we must do as parents and family members is letting them know that it is abuse and it does need to be reported.

There are many signs and symptoms you can look for when determining if a loved one is currently being abused by someone. Below is a list of signs, such as:

• Nothing triggers red flags faster than a over bearing boyfriend or girlfriend. They are always calling or texting to find out where they may be. This can also lead to another form of danger which is called stalking.
• You may happen to see small bruises or cuts and your loved one will make up excuses to how they got them.
• A common symptom may be extreme jealousy from their partner. They will get irate even if the boy or girl wishes to simply hang out with their same sex friends.

Just simply knowing these things may not be enough. We must act if we want to help our loved ones get out of the relationship. Below are a couple of examples.

• Pull them aside and honestly ask them what is going on. Let them know you have noticed a lot of changes and something must be done.
• You must be very attentive and not overbearing. If you blame and accuse them of doing something, they may shut down and not talk to you again.
• Last but not least is to try and bully or talk to the perpetrator. This can backfire and cause the perpetrator to become even more violent to the victim.

If your teen is acting out and you don't know what to do, give us a call and we can try and help you figure out a solution.