Malos Amigos
Uno de los mejores indicadores que su adolescente est� incorporando una nueva manera de vida es la opci�n de amigos que �l est� haciendo. Muchas adolescencias saldr�n de los amigos que han estado con durante muchos a�os y comenzar�n a colgar hacia fuera con un grupo negativo de amigos. Esto es porque el viejo grupo de amigos todav�a se est� comportando la misma manera que utilizaron a. No est�n interesadas en participar en los tipos de cosas que son los nuevos amigos. Si usted est� preocupado del nuevo grupo de amigos su ni�o es cuelga hacia fuera con les invita encima y la charla con ellos se familiariza con qui�n son, que son sus padres, y cu�les son sus intereses. Enajen�ndolos usted est� enajenando a su ni�o tambi�n. Es tambi�n una buena idea familiarizarse con los padres del nuevo grupo de amigos negativos. Usted puede encontrar a un aliado entre los padres de los cabritos negativos posibles.
Algunos padres han hablado a los profesores en la escuela sobre la opci�n de amigos que su ni�o tiene actualmente. Un profesor tiene la oportunidad �nica de ver un adolescente en la acci�n mientras que �l obra rec�procamente con otros pares. Un profesor tambi�n podr� comunicar con qu� clases de amigos est� colgando su ni�o hacia fuera. Pueden ser restricta en cuanto a lo que pueden decirle, pero usted debe poder conseguir una idea bastante buena en cuanto a qu� tipo de cabritos se est� asociando su adolescente.
Para un padre de un colgante adolescente preocupado hacia fuera con un nuevo grupo negativo de vida del amigo puede ser muy desafiador. El instinto primer del padre es exigir que sus adolescentes ven no m�s a cualesquiera de sus nuevos amigos. Esto tiene generalmente los resultados reversos el crear de una situaci�n donde el adolescente rebelde comenzar� a hacer furtivamente hacia fuera o a mentir sobre con qui�n �l va. El acercamiento positivo es generalmente mejor. Invite a los amigos negativos en charla a ellos se familiarizan con que all� son una ocasi�n que usted puede poder ayudarles a conseguir detr�s en el buen camino.
Sneaking Out At Night
Nothing is more disconcerting than to receive a call from the police department at 2:00 a.m. asking if a parent knows where their teen is? The parents answers that the teen is in bed. When the police officer tells them that they are in reality sitting in his patrol car the parent is shocked. The parent now is forced to sleep with one eye open or install some type of alarm system on their home. The parents lose the comfort they used to have when they locked the house for the night with the thought that their family was all safe and sound.
When a teen sneaks out at night this is nothing more than a more passive form of defiance. What the teen is really saying is, �I am not going to obey house rules but I am not going to argue with you either�. This passive aggressive style is very common. Sometimes a teen that operates this way is more difficult to monitor. They aren�t doing what they are asked they just act like they are. To an unobservant parent the child could go very far down the road to negative behavior before the parent becomes aware of what has been going on.
"A Loner" No Friends
If your teen seems to have lost his or her friends and is spending more and more time alone it may be something that you may try to help them with. They will eventually try to push you away and tell you that everything is ok, but parents need to be available to assist in this time of transition. If your child is new in an area after a recent move it will take some time to transition into a new setting. In some cases when a new student moves into a new area they are first contacted by the less desirable element, as they are always looking for new recruits. This of course is not always the case, but does happen quite frequently.
Some frustration occurs for a teen when they are not accepted in the tight upper echelon of popular kids. This can create feelings of despair to an insecure teenager. If they try to move into the upper circle they may not only be rejected but ridiculed for having tried to make such a move. This can happen because those that are barely accepted in the fringes of the upper circle do not want to lose their place to a new comer. This may seem silly to an adult that is no longer in the heat of this battle, but it is very real to the teen being rejected. One concern with a teen becoming a loner is that of depression. If a teen has changed from a fairly sociable person to a loner this is something that needs to be explored. The loner teen usually has something that is keeping them from making friends and a more normal socially involved lifestyle. As with anything a teen that spends his or her time alone may be doing just fine, but it is still something to keep an eye on.